Relationships are hard, men. I can tell you that dating, being married, and getting back to dating isn't easy at all. All relationships require work, but here's one word of advice so that you don't end up hurt: have some self-respect. No woman is going to make you happy, and while I won't go full red-pill on you, there is something to be said about taking a break and working on you for you, and not for what women will see in you. After my marriage fell apart, I was a bit lonely, but through conscious effort of rejecting relationships (because it's too soon, not because I hate women) and working on what I wanted, I think this shit really does work.
Short-term MGTOW can be therapeutic, and I think this applies to women as well. If you only ever get your validation from the opposite sex, you're never going to make it. We've all seen it in women too, the girl that can't go a week from a breakup to a new guy, or the guy that relentlessly browses tinder, and can't not fuck someone, no matter how below his standards that girl might be.
Now, if you just want to meet women, or you want to be more attractive here's a tip: be yourself, but not just you right now, be the best version of yourself. Every day when you get up in the morning think: How can I climb another rung on the ladder of excellence?
Do you have a shit job? Do your best at it and take pride in your work for you, even though it will likely go unnoticed. Do it because it's good for you. Eat right, and dress the way you want to see yourself. Don't follow the trends, but don't be a slob. Work on your body, your mind, and try to be what you've always imagined yourself to be as the perfect individual.
Can't hit the gym? You have a floor. Start pushing, squatting, and find places to perform pull-ups. Stop eating nasty shit, and start cooking. I too work long hours, but I batch-cook and eat my lonely lunch. It may not be gourmet stuff, but it's healthy and filling.
More than anything, lean into your hobbies. If you like anime and manga, guess what, loser? Go to conventions and join gay ass clubs. You like cars? Go to car shows. Make friends with everyone you meet if you can. Be polite to everyone you meet, and practice the shitty chivalry that your parents taught you. Yes, it's outdated, but it goes a long way, especially if you expect nothing in return. That is also important. Do not expect to be rewarded in your actions other than knowing that this is you doing these actions. Self-fulfillment can be gained just from knowing you're a fit, smart, well-rounded gentleman. You will also be more confident, and finally: play the numbers game.
Yes, this is going to sound really "pick-up-artist" type shit, but it's true. There's no reason you can't hit on every woman you meet, even the homelier-looking ones. Do it in a gentle fashion, like you're just joking around, and don't worry if they never say anything back. You'll build a reputation for being that dude. Will some women find you annoying and creepy? Yes. Tons of women hate me, but lots of others have decided to get in my bed. I'm not a stud by any means. I'm okay-looking and I'm of below-average height. However, I have a good job, dress well, and am pretty fit. You'll screw this up a lot when you're starting out, but it gets easier as you get older. When you're young girls just want the best-looking guys, but some will go out with you even then. More mature women (25 and up) know what they want, and if you're reasonably good-looking, have manners, and present the best version of yourself, almost none of them will find you creepy (not that you should care anyway). I've experienced dating as a young man, and as an older man, and while I haven't hit 30 yet, I can say it is a world of difference. Also, if you like younger gals, that's cool too. Lots of them like older dudes, just keep it legal.
Just have fun. Dating is meant to be fun, not stressful. If you're finding it stressful, then take a break. Nothing wrong with not getting laid. I've gone without sex for months on end, and it never bothered me. There's always porn and if you're really desperate there's girls that are willing to get paid to play with your junk. Just don't get your personal validation from them.
Now, for the idiots in relationships. Work at it. That's all I have to say. Be open and communicative with your significant other, and something makes you uncomfortable talk it out. If you perceive your girl is uncomfortable, but she won't say, get her to talk to you in a non-comfrontative manner. This is what I fucked up. I took her words at face value. Shouldn't have done that, but I still would have made an exit, just a bit sooner. Remember no person is ever going to love you more than you love yourself. So love yourself a lot. Don't let her walk all over you for the sake of the relationship. Nobody likes a pushover. Draw lines in the sand before you get into a relationship, and if the line is crossed, then this relationship is over. Make sure these are your must haves, though. If your girlfriend doesn't like you watching Boku no Pico on the big screen with her parents over, then maybe just watch it on your phone with headphones on. However, if your gf wants to have gangbangs in the house and you're the jealous type, then tell her to fuck off. If you're both into that, then that's cool, but have some self-respect and don't lie to yourself. Lots of leftist dudes make this mistake. Having come from a traditional household and finding socialism later in life has made this a non-issue for me, but you guys shouldn't bend your personal life to fit your aspirational politics. If something makes you feel sick, then it's probably best you don't do it. Don't cuck out, is basically what I'm saying. At the same time, don't be a control freak, and don't get super jealous over small shit. If you feel too suspicious, or too uncomfortable, then just exit that relationship. That's not going to do you any favors. That being said, if you do get cheated on, chances are you're not going to get cheated on again. The signs are pretty obvious in retrospect and you'll feel it in your gut. There's plenty of women out there for you and anyone else willing to try. No she won't be your perfect socialist anime waifu, but a real person beats porn any day of the week, and girls with nice personalities but homely faces are better than girls with shit personalities and knockout bodies. Though if you can bang the latter, then go for it. Just have a pull-out strategy.
Finally, remember to be a gentleman. Don't rape women. Shouldn't have to say this, but some guys can't take an obvious "No" for an answer. Now, denial and playing hard to get is a real thing, but don't be so autistic that you can't take a hint, and if you are autistic, then I can't help you because I'm not a therapist. Talk to a therapist, maybe. Anyway, happy hunting, and I hope all of you get a Tania to your Che.