As with anything like this, racists and abusers will use it as a trojan horse to get away with fucked up things they want to do. At the same time, roleplay in the context of mutual consent and good communication can be therapeutic, and a good chunk of this kind of stuff is driven by people who identify with the "underdog" side of the roleplay and want to work on overcoming trauma or other complex emotions. I'd say you really should let people do what they want. The hard part is that there are power dynamics in relationships, especially when there's something like race in the mix.
>Is it okay for romantic couples to be racist to each other?No, but it can be hard from the outside to tell what's being racist vs sharing a sense of edgy humor.
>>530544Made what illegal? Race fetishism? How does that even work?
>>530558This is a good point.
>>530576A lot of white people grow up fully immersed in racism and struggle to make sense of it. Being with a non-white person can be like an attempt at "compensating" for their culture or their own personal issues with it. A lot of white people do it explicitly to make their parents mad and find out that they actually are ok with it but still harbor a bunch of racist ideas that now sharply contradict the reality they're living.